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FF Sparks (Casual)

And so it ends.

My mom just called while dad and I were each packing the last of our things... she said not to come back east after all. About five minutes before mom called, my grandmother passed away. I was told that she died with the last letter I wrote her held to her heart, and still asking for me.

Olive Bates Tatman was a teacher and a mother, no matter who she interacted with. Her students at school looked to her as a surrogate mother figure -- some literally, as they'd come and stay with her when there were family problems in their own homes; one, my Uncle Ron, is still considered part of the family. Her own three children (of whom she outlived one, my Uncle Bob), and her own three children-in-laws (of whom she outlived one, my Uncle Gordon), and her two grandchildren (my brother and I) all looked to her as a teacher.

Her most important lessons were given not through lectures or in classrooms, but in how she lived her life. She firmly believed that the best way to make the world better was not to tilt alone at societal windmills, to try and be a hero or a martyr...but to try and quietly, individually, make every life she touched better. I can only hope that someday, I will have positively touched even half as many lives as she has.

I know she's in a better place now, though. I know that my grandfather, Thomas Cooper Tatman ('Cooper' to everyone, because he hated the name Tommy or Thomas), has been waiting patiently for her for these past seven years, and that now they're with each other again. I know the pain that she's suffered through over the past year is at an end. I know that in almost every way, this is a good thing. She had a long, full life... longer than many, being 86 years old.

So why does it feel like my heart is torn in two?

Godspeed, gramma. I know granpa's glad to see you again.

Comments

*hug* I'm so sorry, hon. I know there's not a damn thing I can say that will make you feel better because you need to mourn. But like I said before, if you need anything, let me know.
Terribly sorry, darling. Thoughts and prayers and good vibes and best wishes are with you or headed your way.
I'm sorry.
I'm so very sorry to hear this. The loss of a loved one is never easy. Just know that she's with family, and she's safe now. And, you'll see her again in time.
*snug*
I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.

*hug* I'm sorry, faradis. If you need to talk, I'll be around. Wish I could be there for you more.
*hugs*
So why does it feel like my heart is torn in two?

Because you're human, and you love her, and miss her. And you didn't get to say goodbye.

But you know she was thinking of you.

*hugs offered*
*huuuuuug*

We're thinking about you down here. Let us know if you need anything - I know distance prevents most stuff, but still, let us know.
I'm sorry, Sparks. If there's anything I can do...

-- ZC
*hug* I'm really sorry for your loss.

I can tell that even though she's gone on to a better place, she's still very much a part of you. I see many of the qualities you've described for her, as part of you.
*hugs tight* You're in my thoughts.
*hugs*

Many hugs

You're torn, because the waiting, the not knowing is over... and because grief does that to a person. We love you honey. When you need to cry, cry. There's folks around to help you stand when you can't. Love you sweetie.
I am so sorry to hear of your and your family's loss, ma'am, and can only poorly echo already expressed sentiments. I wish I knew anything to say, something to ease your grief, other than just my condolences but... there is nothing.

Be well,
-r
my condolences. I'm sorry for your loss, she sounds like a wonderful woman, and obvious she lives on in your memory.
I'm sorry to hear that she passed, she sounds like she was (and will always in your heart) be a very special woman. *hug*
I'm sorry. You know we're all here to listen to you or talk.
*huuuuuuuuugs*
I'm so sorry for your loss, Sparks. My thoughts are with you.

(Anonymous)

huggggggggggggggggggg

Part of you being grown up and on your own means I usually do not comment unless it's something big.

I just had to say this.
You are on a very good start to being as wonderful as your grandmother was in your eyes.

So you're making her proud, never doubt that
but you need to keep it up for the next 60 years

:-)
sorry just trying to get you to smile

I wanted to send you all the love I could and let you know when you come back, I'm always available for a real life hug

hugggggggggggggggggggggggg
aunty
I'm so sorry, but it sound as if she lived a wonderful life and touched many people.

(Anonymous)

My heart goes out to you.

My sympathies for your loss.

—Kelli217
*hugs lots*

She sounds like an amazing woman who blessed a lot of lives with her touch and presense. I'm so sorry for your loss.
A little late, but my condolences to you. I hope things are looking up now.